Kate Beckinsale has shared a heart-wrenching post on Instagram describing the impact of losing her actor father at the tender age of five.
Richard Beckinsale was a household name with starring roles in classic sitcoms Rising Damp and Porridge when he died of a heart attack at the family’s Berkshire home in 1979, aged just 31.
And in a series of candid photos, Kate, now 45, reflected on the sudden loss of her father and offered her support to those coping with the annual celebration without their parent.
Candid: Kate Beckinsale has shared a heart-wrenching post on Instagram describing the impact of losing her father at the tender age of five
She also dismissed the notion that ‘children are resilient’ by sharing an image of her five-year-old self next to her mother Judy Loe on the day of her dad’s memorial service.
Taking to Instagram, the Underworld star wrote: ‘Don’t be fooled by ”children are resilient”. This is my mother and me attending the ‘celebration of life ‘ memorial service for my dad. I look fine. I was shattered, heartbroken and shocked.
‘Every time Father’s Day comes around I remember my father with such love and longing, and I remember the deep shame, loneliness and self loathing when I was excused from aged 5 onwards from making Father’s Day cards at school.
‘I didn’t know anyone else who had lost a parent and there was no number to call to find advice on how to support grieving children .@kelliauerbachsent me her article about losing both her parents before the age of 20.
‘It’s moving and beautifully written and I really advise reading it,if Father’s Day (or Mother’s Day ) is a painful issue for you or your children.
Memorial service: Kate also dismissed the notion that ‘children are resilient’ by sharing an image of her five-year-old self next to her mother Judy Loe on her dad’s memorial service
Tribute: In a series of candid photos and messages, the Underworld star, reflected on the sudden death of her father, the British actor Richard Beckinsale
Happy Father’s Day: The actress also paid tribute to her stepfather and television director Roy Battersby
Candid: The Underworld star, reflected on the sudden death of her father and offered her support to those coping with the annual celebration without their parent
‘The amount of shame children carry for having a dead parent is astonishing. Resources such as the National Alliance for Grieving Children at childrengrieve.org in the US and Winston’s wish at winstonswish.org in the UK give invaluable support to kids in this position, at a time when the rest of the family are grieving themselves.
‘Big hugs to everyone who feels like shit as this lovely holiday comes around . You may not be able to buy a card . You’re in the Dead Fathers Club that none of us wanted to join and yet here we all are. I’m glad we have each other . Love to all xx.’
In another post Kate shared a throwback image of her younger self stood in front of her dad as he holds a parrot as with the caption: ‘There has never been anyone like you. Happy Father’s Day.’
Following the moving photos Kate also paid tribute to her stepfather Roy Battersby who married Kate’s mum Judie 18 years after her father’s death in 1997.
Acting legend: Last month the actress paid tribute to her dad on the 40th anniversary of his death by sharing a montage of shots from his legendary roles on 70s sitcoms Porridge and Rising Damp
Porridge: Richard made his debut in Coronation Street in 1969, before going on to star in the BBC sitcom Porridge (pictured, with co-stars Ronnie Barker and Fulton Mackay)
On Instagram she wrote: ‘Thank you for taking on a hurt little girl and giving her confidence in her intelligence by immediately treating her as an equal .
‘And for all the laughs and love ,and for going to war together on all the bad shit, always. Happy Father’s Day Roy.’
Last month the actress paid tribute to her dad on the 40th anniversary of his death by posting a series of snaps of his iconic TV roles.
On Instagram, she wrote: ’40 years is a lot of missing. Thank you so much to everyone who has been kind. Lots of love xx #march19.’
Richard made his acting debut in the much-loved British soap Coronation Street in 1969 before going on to star in the Granada sitcom The Lovers and the BBC sitcom Porridge.
Mother and daughter: The actress was previously in a long-term romance with fellow actor Michael Sheen and they share a daughter Lily, 19
He died in his sleep from a heart attack, which was later revealed to be a congenital defect.
Of losing her father, the Hollywood actress said in 2013: ‘It was a terrible loss. It’s so weird as a five-year-old to look out in the street and see people reading the paper and crying while you’re crying and your mum is crying and your granny’s crying.
‘Even though it was the worst loss that I have experienced I was able to share it with people who genuinely, even if they didn’t know him, really seemed to love him.
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‘I feel not many people are in that position – to have lost somebody and also to feel like that’s something really relevant to other people.’
Kate’s candid post comes after it emerged that she had split from her boyfriend and SNL star Pete Davidson, 25.
The actress and Pete went public with a date at a New York Rangers game in March but they were believed to have first met at a Golden Globes afterparty in January.
The actress was previously in a long-term romance with fellow actor Michael Sheen, who she began dating in 1995 before breaking up in 2003. They share a daughter Lily, 19.